A Poliwhirl of Emotion

Compersion is the most wonderful part of the human experience. It is a state of happiness achieved while witnessing another’s happiness. Getting giggly because a small child is giggling is compersion. Having pride because your favorite sportsball team won a game match is compersion. Crying tears of joy while reading a story online about someone overcoming tragedy or demonstrating extreme altruism is compersion. Loving one of your partners more because they love someone else, and loving someone else because it makes your other partner love you more, is compersion. Getting excited that Pokemon trainers in your area have caught high leveled, rare, and shiny Pokemon which you haven’t found yet is compersion.


Compersion is the glue that holds our society together. We rely on it to coexist. Yet so many people remain focused on their individual accomplishments and attachments, unable to observe their true feelings of joy when confronted with the uncomfortable happiness of another. Instead of being excited for the winners in life, we tend to focus on our own losses. In some regards, this can be healthy, giving us opportunity to reconcile our mistakes and reflect on what we should learn. However, many of us hold resentments against life’s winners for doing better than us, whether we blame their genetics, upbringing, or sheer dumb luck.


I posit that we must be better than this. The human species is one being, one creature, made of many multi-celled pieces. One’s success and accomplishments is everyone’s success and accomplishment, for nothing would work without the collective whole. Much like the bacteria in your gut, separate living organisms that are as much their own entities as they are a part of you, we are sentient puzzle pieces that must fit together if we wish to be complete. The only route to enlightenment for us is through sharing all resources, knowledge, and emotion. True love is socialism.


We must unabashedly and unconditionally love everyone on Earth and want them to succeed and be happy. This often means making many personal sacrifices without reward as well as having an attitude that genuinely enjoys making these sacrifices. Furthermore, we must take personal responsibility for our own mood and happiness and not allow other’s actions to upset us. If someone cannot rise to the challenge of rolling with the flow, accepting their flaws, happily making sacrifices for other’s happiness, and being happy for them, they should remove themselves from the human experience, similar to a piece of fecal matter being excreted.


Our personal goals, agendas, and actions should never be at the expense of others. Our attitudes should never place blame for our discontent on sources external to ourselves. Eating an animal because it’s convenient or tasty is no different than raping a child because it’s easy and pleasurable. Deriving our contentment from these activities makes us equally reprehensible. We are responsible for pleasing ourselves and if our doing so makes one other creature suffer, we are as responsible for that suffering as Satan herself. If this seems contradictory, that is because love is a dichotomy of celebration. We must love that which would cause us misery while avoiding putting others in the same situation.


The most integral part of any romantic relationship is communication. Polyamorous units float or sink on their ability to properly convey complexly nuanced degrees of emotion, desire, and conflict. Realistically, intent is one of the most key ingredients in this, because a person with anything less than the best and most pure intent will fail to express themselves in any way less than dishonest. However, if I derive my happiness from the happiness of those around me, it is then in my best interest to share my everything with them, physical and metaphysical, in the hopes that it will help them and with the confidence that they will share theirs. To believe anything less is to succumb to the abyss.


My compersion for someone I love cannot be restrained by jealousy, disappointment, or unrealistic expectations. If she chooses to ride a bicycle through Wal-Mart at 1 in the morning without me, it is my obligation to be impressed and in awe. Any invasive feelings of “but *I* wanted to ride a bicycle through Wal-Mart at 1 in the morning TOO!” must be habitually eliminated and replaced with feelings of “I can also do cool things, with or without her, and she won’t get jealous, either.” This logic must be unilaterally applied to all issues of competition, achievement, and success across society if we wish to advance as a culture.


More importantly, it is a vital aspect of playing Pokemon Go with a sizeable squad. My local Discord group is hundreds, sometimes thousands, of players in the area with differing levels of skill and commitment. Some of us have been invited to 3 Mewtwo EX raids, some have been invited to none. Some have caught 2 perfect IV legendaries, some have caught none. Some have caught a shiny Magikarp and evolved a red Gyarados, some have not. Yet we continue to help each other to Catch ‘Em All™ without resentment and bitterness. Pokemon Go, like life in general, is a game, and the only way to lose is not to play. We all have our own pace, our own dedication, and the unity that that diversity inherently brings makes our proverbial gameplay all the spicier.


I believe that I am you and we are all the walrus. Reincarnation transcends time and the human soul is a singularity, existing within each of us as we experience ourselves from different faces. Your happiness is quite literally my own happiness because the boundaries of individualism are superfluous and arbitrary. Time itself is merely a matter of perspective and everything is happening at the exact same time in the exact same space with the exact same molecules. Whatever separations you want to draw to divide us are wrong.


I love you people all, even the ones that I hate. We will live or die as one human system of growth.